Here they are, my beautiful babies :) Cassidy's locks are 9 months in
here. This was just a few weeks ago.
Summer has been sort of crazy so I haven't written much, but tried to keep up with some pictures :)
Terry's self employment venture proved to be very bad timing with the economy, so he is still doing it during the day and works a second shift job at night.
The kids and I went to the shore for a week to my dad's beach house. I thought it was gonna be nuts with just me and the 6 of them, but it was a JOY!! I didn't want to ever leave. Dad took the week off his second shift job to spend the week we were gone working a huge contracting job and he worked hard, hired help, it was a BIG job,,,,,,,and long story short, they aren't paying.
So, that has been a HUGE financial blow to us. But God has never let us go hungry or without, and we trust in HIM :)
We found a new loctitian like I mentioned who lives SO much closer although we will miss Mrs. Denise very much!! Ms. Doris is lots of fun, and did a great job on Cassidy's retightening! Her hair just keeps getting longer and longer!!
I have to admit, being very full of nerve, have half a mind to approch black wemen and say, " you don't have to straighten your beautiful curls" Then run like hell cause I don't have any business acting like I know anything about black hair, living as a black woman or anything else.
I just love all the woman we see with locks and sisterlocks. Who could deny the beauty of it? God doesn't create anything wrong, only beautiful. And since I am in this honest feelings mood, is it wrong for me to wish the first family would not spend so much energy hiding their black characterisitcs? The President is white and black from what I know, the first lady is black. Would the people of the US look at them diferently if they looked more like an African American family? If Michele and the girls were to wear their hair natural would our President be seen in a different light? It sadens me....
Anyway, I don't know what that has to do with anything really other than I don't want my 2 youngest daughters to spend one minute of their life not proud of their African heritage, who they are, where they come from. That is not how God intended it. Precious girls made in the image of GOD himself.
Ms. Doris, our new loctician did shed some light on things for me. Now this is not everyone's thoughts by any means, but for her as a black woman, she told me she had decided before we even got there that she didn't understand what business i thought I had adopting one of theirs. And it wasn't right, and what were my intentions? During the hours we were there, she saw me comfort and hold her, she saw her sister's serving her lunch and just basically being spoiled like she is :) Ms Doris said she had a change of heart that day. I never really thought much about the black community thinking I would adopt her to hurt her or anything like that!! Would people think that of me? She is my blessing, my gift from God and she is cherished :)
She is also three and getting into everything while I sit and type so I have to run for now. From the bottom of my heart I hope not to have upset anyone in anyway. And I hope you enjoy seeing Cassidy's picture and how awesome her locks look!!!
Peace and love
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The locs look beautiful! But more importantly, you have a beautiful family. Those are wonderful pictures. The green grass, white clothes and flowers works so well!
Trust, I've wanted to talk to my mother and sister about straightening their hair, and they don't listen. I can only imagine how difficult a time you'd have if you tried to talk to them. I really appreciate you embracing their curls.
Beautiful family. :-)
Your a great mother. God bless you and your family. ;)
Tonya,
You have me crying this morning. I have to admit I used to be like Ms. Doris wondering why a white family would adopt black children & wondering would those white parent's allow the black child to know their heritage. I so love how honest you are & I love the fact that you didn't alter Zoe & Cass's hair. You are truly a gift from God for those two little girls. That is why I've become such an avid follower of your blog.
By the way Cass's loc's look awesome & they've grown so much.
Take Care
Someone had to take care of them and God blessed you and your family's heart to do it, so it IS truly a blessing from God. Keep up the great work!
love has no color.. Jesus is love. U r a great mother period.. But I wish Angelina Jolie would fix up Zaharah's hair. LOL
Cassie has a new fan. My 6 yo old son saw her picture and said, "Oooo, she's pretty." I just laughed and said agreed. At least he has good taste, because she is quite beautiful.
These are gorgeous photos and your children are so beautiful!! I think of peace/serenity when I look at them.
That photo with them in white...beautiful. For some reason I've never questioned why a white family would adopt a black child. I'm from Africa and I've seen the desperate need for children to be loved, cherished by someone- anyone. Children begging to be hugged, fed..it's heartbreaking. Skin color is the last thing on their minds. People are people.And you've proved that a white mama can instill the right 'ethnic' values. The most important thing is the love you have for them.
I'm not so sure about telling any black mama to stop straightening their baby's hair. It's a place 'angels fear to thread' You'd have to run pretty fast LOL.
Thank you all for your love and support. It means the world to me, and Cassidy loves to hear everyone say how pretty she is :) I guess part of me does feel awkward toward the black community that looks down on me. When we went to adopt, we did not choose or specify anything! Not boy nor girl, not any ethnic group nor special needs. We left that to God. We were given two African American little girls :)
To feel your warmth toward our family is calming to my heart. Inside our home, color is nothing, Heritage and roots are, but no racial differences. But we are very careful to know and teach our children that this is not the case outside our doors. Some of us are black and some are white. And to the majority of the world that still makes a big difference. I hope our family can continue to change the hearts of people whom we meet along the way, and that I can continue to learn more about raising African children from all of you as I go along.
Many Blessings,
Tonia
PS.Anthia not worries, I would NEVER say it outloud that I wish they would leave their natural hair,....just something I think inside. I wish I could go back in time and make it a non issue in the whole world. But I can't, nor would I ever have the nerve!! Are you kidding me? I couldn't run fast enough, you know that!!
Much love
I am with you!
Now, imagine the looks we get as a transracial, 2 mom family!
And, it makes me sad to see some of the black girls' hair at my kids school. It is sooo damaged from perms and such and yet it is my girls, with locs who are likely to get negative comments at some point.
I only see it a problem if the adoptive parents are trying to keep the children away from their birth culture. You are embracing it so there is no problem at all. Why deny a child a loving home just because the adoptive parent isn`t the same colour as them.
Tonia,
Please contact me at bwilliams_44@yahoo.com
You can put Cassidy as the subject line then I will respond regarding something I'd like to share in private.
Peace & Blessings
It is so encouraging to see a woman like you allow her daughter to be herself and beautiful on her own without Relaxers. Your family is beautiful! An dI dont even Know you, But I wish there were more like you out there. She is soo gorgeous!
Please share your family pictures with the Lovinloc' group when you get a chance.
For some reason you decision to loc your daughters hair just let me know that whatever parental decisions you would make for your children would be healthy ones and what is best for them.
oh and I love this, of course , ..'She is my blessing, my gift from God and she is cherished :)'
Cassidy is a cutie. I wish that God continue to provide and less your family, no matter the skin tone. True I wish more black families adopted or had the ability too, but if their is someone of a different nationality that can, then by all means they should. I also appreciate that you celebrated the girls heritage by not straightening their hair with junk. Show them that they are beautiful just the way God created them.
God bless,
Love is Love. I would rather see a child be adopted by a loving white family than to spend time waiting for adoption or living in foster care without stability or a family. God does not see color and neither does love.
-Mom to a multi-ethnic princess
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